Tightening the screws.

We all end up doing things that we don't want to do.

Whether it's bingeing - food, streaming, substances, whatever, or texting someone we shouldn't text, or just doing something that ruins whatever we planned earlier.

We might call this self-sabotage.

We feel a strong urge to stop. To overcome. To not do it again.

Until... we do it again.

And so, we ask, "Why can't I control myself?" and go about tightening the screws.

Maybe, we are asking the wrong question.

Maybe, the control is the problem.

Is there something you are forcing yourself to do, to adhere to?

Not from a calm, curious, compassionate space, but an "I should" energy wanting you to be a "do-gooder"?

Because the harder we do that, the more we restrict the rebel inside us. And then the rebel doesn't know what else to do but to fight.

So, maybe, the work here is not to overcome the self-sabotage by tightening the screws. Maybe, the work is to loosen the screws so that you won't need to self-sabotage.