Weekend troubles. Each weekend, I have to figure out what to do. Should I go out with friends, finish pending chores, get some work done, catch up on Netflix... and the most challenging of them all, get some rest? I'm sure you have a similar list as well. If I
Intentional rest. A lot has been said about the importance of taking rest. But not much about how we do it. We might know what is "not rest" but that doesn't tell us much about what it is. What brings us physical rest, mental rest, emotional rest? Social
What time is it? When was the last time you forgot what time it is? What were you doing? Who were you with? When we are engaged in things that energise us, we forget about everything else, including time. These are the things our essential self wants to do. And these are worth finding
Getting back to basics. If you feel stuck in your ways of thinking and can’t see options beyond what’s in front of you, read The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander & Ben Zander. Beyond Anxiety by Martha Beck will help you in breaking the grip of anxiety. If you feel
Decoding forward motion. Figuring out where you are seeking to go. Once you do that, figuring out what you need to do in order to get there. And then, doing that. One step at a time. It's easier said than done. But this is what we can keep coming back to.
Without a practice. Things remain the way they are unless we choose to change them with intention. Rather, they get worse over time. A practice requires persistent and deliberate effort. It gets better over time. It requires us to prioritise the long haul over the short term. A practice compounds. Without a practice,
Kinder or more effective? It's a rhetorical question. It's always more effective to be kinder. To others. And to ourselves.
Service mode. When things are in service mode, they are expected to not work. You don't drive your car while it's getting serviced. When your house is getting renovated, you find another place to live. That's how the process of fixing something works. It involves opening
Agency requires trust. If you are going to fly, you need to trust the pilot. It won't work if the pilot doesn't have the agency to make decisions. When we doubt ourselves and the people we work with, we take away their agency. And without agency, we can'
A battle too many. It’s easier to add one more thing, one more project, one more battle to your plate. Especially when you don’t need permission from someone else. A battle too many is how wars are lost. No matter how powerful you are or how much resources you have. Some projects
With more resources? What would you do if you had more resources at your disposal? Would it change the way you look at your work? Would it enable you do more? Or less? What would you do if you could hire others to do everything else? What would you be doing? The cost
Compass calibration. Your compass won't work if there is distortion from other magnetic fields. As Martha Beck says, for a compass to work, it needs to be able to move. Too much stimuli, whether in person or through technology, can distort our compass. It can take us away from where
The calculating self & the central self. From The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander & Ben Zander: The calculating self is concerned for its survival in a world of scarcity. Its voice is a version of the one that announced our arrival here on earth with wails and cries, and then learned to smile coyly
Listen or tell? It's easier to tell. You feel like you have done your job. You have sent the memo. But it doesn't change anything. Listening takes hard work. It involves facing things you might not want to face. It requires you to hold back and not say the
Aligning the team. The first thing to understand and realise is that everyone wants what's best for the whole. If that's not true, we are doomed to begin with. As Richard Schwartz teaches us in his book, there are "No bad parts". But even if it'
The pet-machine spectrum. You expect your MacBook to work a certain way. If it doesn't, it's a crisis. Until you can get it to work again. If your cat behaved the way you expected, you would be surprised. You expect it to do things its own way. You learn
There's all the love in the world. Imagine a new born surrounded by the people who love her. They are all looking at her with all the love in the world. And she is receiving it without any hesitation. Now, imagine yourself in her place. Imagine receiving all the love in the world, and more. If you
What do you do? "What do you do?" is an industrial era question. "What do you create?" is more apt for today's time. We engage with what you create, not what you do. The people who engage with your work might not care if you were the one
The ones who are eager. "We are going there... do you want to come?" This is different from "let me try to convince you why you should come" If you spend most of the time convincing people who are not sure, you might most likely miss the ones who are eager
Saying no. The hard part of focussing is not what you say yes to, it’s what you say no to. Not what you don’t want to do. But the things you want to do but are choosing to say no to.
Emotional deposits. When we do emotional labour, we make a withdrawal on our emotional reserves. And over time, they might get depleted. What helps you add onto your reserves? How can you consciously make space for it? In case you are curious, here's Seth explaining emotional labor: Emotional laborThat’s
An unproductive day. You finish your tasks, check your todo list off, add more stuff to the todo list, and maybe check that off too. And now you have more tasks for the next day. Tasks are overrated, as Seth Godin says. There are people, and technology, that can do tasks in more
Without a project. Life without a project fades to grey. ~ Seth Godin, This is Strategy Projects are messy, chaotic and unpredictable. They change the way things are. And, of course, as Seth says, they might not work. But without a project, we get used to the mind numbing predictability of the status quo.
The secret ingredients of a yoga class. A yoga class is almost always more effective than doing yoga alone. It isn’t about the skill or the knowledge. It’s about the conditions that are created. You go to the yoga studio with intent, at a set time. The teacher guides you on what to do next,
Because you want to. How often do you do things because you want to? Our social selves learn to adapt to what everyone wants. And if we are busy doing what everyone wants, when do we do what we want to do?
