In the system.

There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says “Morning, boys. How’s the water?” And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes “What the hell is water?”

~ David Foster Wallace

When we are in the system, it's hard to see the system. We get stuck into one version of reality and call it normal.

And we fight hard to defend it as the only reality.

But, if we allow ourselves to step out, to see another culture without fighting it, with curiosity, we will realise that our way of living is a way and not the way.

This gives us agency and a chance to change things that we might have been thinking are unchangeable.