The calculating self & the central self.
From The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander & Ben Zander:
The calculating self is concerned for its survival in a world of scarcity. Its voice is a version of the one that announced our arrival here on earth with wails and cries, and then learned to smile coyly or stamp its foot to say, “Take note of me.”
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WHEN ONE PERSON peels away layers of opinion, entitlement, pride, and inflated self-description, others instantly feel the connection. As one person has the grace to lighten up, others often follow. Now, with the calculating self revealed and humored, the central self shines through.
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Inscribed on five of the six pillars in the Holocaust Memorial at Quincy Market in Boston are stories that speak of the cruelty and suffering in the camps. The sixth pillar presents a tale of a different sort, about a little girl named Ilse, a childhood friend of Guerda Weissman Kline, in Auschwitz. Guerda remembers that Ilse, who was about six years old at the time, found one morning a single raspberry somewhere in the camp. Ilse carried it all day long in a protected place in her pocket, and in the evening, her eyes shining with happiness, she presented it to her friend Guerda on a leaf. “Imagine a world,” writes Guerda, “in which your entire possession is one raspberry, and you give it to your friend.
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Such is the nature of the central self, the remarkably generative, prolific, and creative nature of ourselves and the world.