Simple rules. When tired, sleep. When hungry, eat. When rested, play. When lonely, connect. Food, water, sleep, play, love: the body doesn't ask much to be in joy. The challenge is we don't live in a culture that does this. And that's the opportunity too. We
Unconditional. Joy is unconditional. And so is love. When we bring in conditions, we enter a transaction. We say: "If you do this, you will get that." That's where joy and love go away. Magic happens when we forget about the transaction, whether it is in friendship,
The ones who cry. I am lucky to have people around me who make my world better... they are the ones who share their pain instead of hiding it, who cry instead of holding their tears, who make space for themselves, allowing me to do the same. We live in a world that expects
Who makes the call? If you go out with your friend for breakfast, does it matter who made the ask? What matters is that you both got to connect over some really good food. More often than not, both you and your friend keep waiting for the other to ask. Yes, we are afraid
What's pulling you? There are always things that you push yourself towards. Tasks, people, events that you convince yourself, even persuade yourself, to go to or interact with. Without the push, you'd rather sit at home in your pyjamas doing nothing. But what pulls you? Things you'd do without
When you don't feel like it. Why does that happen? Is it because you WANT to hide? It might be because a part of you is afraid. Or anxious. Or just lost. And it might be a child part who needs what a child needs - a compassionate adult. Yes, you can drag a child with you
That's all it takes. A friend sent me a text last week. It was just three words. "I miss you." It changed my whole day. The way I felt about myself. The way I interacted with everyone else. We talked for an hour yesterday and it was so much joy. That'
Rest. Play. Rest. Rest until you feel like playing. Play until you feel like resting. ~ Martha Beck That's what kids do. That's what pets do. That's what professionals do too.
What will bring you joy? Make a list. Write all items big and small. Write the ones that don't seem too realistic right now. Write the ones that seem too small to be written down. Start ticking them off one by one. See the magic unfold. Mine included wearing my new shirt, going
Building upto it. This can become a way of stalling. A way of stretching things until you come to the point. Some movies do that. Most series do that. But the best ones don't. The new Tom Cruise movie Digger throws us into the deep end of the pool in scene
The way to unstuck. Seth Godin's new book is all about this. Getting unstuck. It's brilliant as expected. Check it out here: The KnotMost of us are working very hard on things that can’t be fixed. We optimize. We worry. We push. And nothing changes. At the same time,
Abundance/greed. Greed cares about the number. With greed, even $100 billion is not enough. Abundance forgets about the number. Because it's enough. If you have enough data in your wifi plan, you stop thinking about your wifi data. That's abundance. If you compare your wifi data with
Which game are you playing? Cricket has different formats. In T20, a batsman who scores 30 runs from 20 balls and gets out is considered to do a good job. In a test match, the same performance might get you dropped from the team. You can choose which game you want to play. And once
Out of fight/flight. Fight/flight is a stress response from the nervous system. When it gets a stimulus that is a threat to our safety, whether physical, emotional, mental or financial, it activates the mode automatically. The fort gates go up, the troops are in place. Anything or everything is perceived as a
The games period I can't remember any kid in the school who didn't wait for the games period. It didn't matter how good you were at cricket or football, or if you got to bat or not. You wanted to be out there, playing. Why then are
Rest Play Rest That's what kids do. That's what pets do. They play wholeheartedly. And when they are tired, they rest. And then it's play again. Does your BodyMind feel like playing or like resting? Are you willing to listen to it?
You matter. Do any of these feel true to you? What if you allow them to? You are meant to be at peace. You did nothing wrong. You are not in trouble. You are safe. You are loved. You belong. You are matter. You matter. All psychological suffering is an illusion. It&
Taking a day off It's so hard to do when you are your own boss. When you are not, you can turn off your phone and email. But what do you do with the voice inside your own head? How do you take a break from that? What you can do is
Complete the step. Years ago, when I started learning to dance, I had all these "hell thoughts" in my head... You can't dance. You are a pain to watch. Why are you making your teacher bear this? Why don't you just quit? My teacher saw me do
The gift of 'no'. Saying no doesn't look like a gift. And, for sure, it doesn't feel like one. Because it's hard to say no, we say yes. Or stay silent. Even when we don't want to. We put saying no off for later. For a
The realists. “Often, the person in the group who articulates the possible is dismissed as a dreamer or as a Pollyanna persisting in a simplistic “glass half-full” kind of optimism. The naysayers pride themselves on their supposed realism. However, it is actually the people who see the glass as “half-empty”
Two things at a time. It's tempting to try and do this. It feels productive (read: busy) and important. However, it usually means nothing gets done. It is also a good place to hide from the hard part - the decisions that need to be made to move things forward. As Seth says in
Living by exception. When you don't have a system, everything is an exception. It's not building towards something. It's just one thing after another. Systems work because they compound. The next thing adds onto the previous one. Things become elegant. A garden doesn't grow by
Wants to... A rested body wants to work out. A rested mind wants to create. A rested heart wants to love. You can force them to do these things. But you can't force them to want to.
