The selfish ask.

If your friend were in a similar situation, would you be happy that they asked you for help? How would it make you feel? Relationships are built when we are courageous enough to ask for help. And, of course, show up when it's asked for. The selfish ask

Creating magic.

All magic is nothing but concentrated energy. The sun is the ultimate one. A self-sustaining fusion reaction that generates concentrated energy consistently and lights up everything. A fruit is a more on-earth version. A plant brings together nutrients from soil, water, sunlight and other stuff to create this magical thing

The anxiety lie.

You do better when you are afraid. It's good to be anxious. It's hard to believe this when it's told to someone else. You wouldn't want your flight captain to fly in anxiety. But when anxiety whispers this to us, we believe

Who's it for? What's it for?

When we show up as a professional, whether we are doing work as a freelancer or building a product, there are two questions we need to answer before anything else. Who's it for? and What's it for? If we are unsure, we tend to answer them

Something wrong.

If you show up, if you raise your hand, if you make assertions, sooner or later, you'd make a mistake. Sooner or later, you'd do something wrong. Our mind gets fixated on the something wrong. And the eagerness to avoid it going forward. But... what about

Ten minutes of now.

The present is infinite, yes. But that creates its own challenge. When are we in the now? And when are we not? What if the now lasts 10 minutes? Start now. Take 10 minutes to breathe. Or do a task. Or just relax. Use a timer if possible. Slowly, we

Where do we start?

If we allow ourselves, we can start with peace & joy. We can make space for our anxiety and let it be, let it breathe. We can create a little space between us and the anxiety. Then we can look at the problem in front of us without anxiety leading

Emotional labour.

You show up at your desk. What do you do? One option is to see what's on your plate. Clear your inbox. Do the things that are pending. Ensure nothing is left undone. Great. What's next? What's tomorrow? New things show up in the

The unsure doctor.

That's a hard one to find - a doctor who isn't sure - who doesn't show up, who isn't sure she can help, who is trying to hide. Maybe it's the years of rigorous training. Maybe it comes with the

Entropy is default.

Your cup of coffee will become cold if you leave it. Dust will settle on your desk if you don't use it. And your day will just pass if you let it. Entropy doesn't require effort. Making things better does. Dandelions spread their seeds at the

Napkin creativity.

When I write on a napkin, ideas just flow. Things become clear, fast. There's something about it. The temporary nature, the texture, the limited space. Suddenly, a lot of clutter in the head just vanishes. Like, this is all there is. All in this small square. Doesn'

A space for boredom.

Intermittent fasting does one thing well. It gives your digestive system time to rest. Time to do nothing. And that allows it to do what it does well when it's supposed to. Can we do the same for the nervous system? Create spaces of no stimuli, no tasks

On the train.

If you board the train, you sign up for a few things. That it will move fast, mostly. That sometimes it would stop. But also, what food would be available, who would be around you, and the narrow or wide lanes to move through. As long as you are on

Following the sun...

That's what most beings do. They adjust their lives with the ups and downs of the sun. The interaction of the sun & the earth, and sometimes the moon, have given us cycles that make the rhythm of life. Some are daily, some weekly, some yearly, and some

Without anxiety.

Anxiety makes us believe that we are better off with it. That we will do better work, faster, if we are anxious. The hustle culture & the economic system driven by anxiety keep doubling down on this message enough that it starts feeling true. But... are you sure that is

Listening to the body.

Most days we are telling the body what to do... to push through when we are tired, to show up when we don't want to do. And most days, the body does what we ask it to do. But it also tells us if it's not

Without the canvas.

Da Vinci wouldn't have been able to make The Last Supper. The masterpiece starts with a blank canvas. So does everything else. Our creations will exist in space or time. But they need a blank first. An hour to write. A blank page to type on. A slot

What if you trusted yourself...

...for that big meeting coming up? ...for the project that matters? ...for that emotional challenge in front of you? What happens when you don't trust yourself? What happens when you do? Which do you prefer?

A part of me...

"A part of me is angry" is different from "I am angry". Just like "my hand hurts" is different from "I am hurt". Both can be true. But they imply different things. A part of me is angry, and I am allowing

Fixing yesterday.

You can spend a lot of time and emotional effort thinking about yesterday and trying to fix it. But it's gone. No matter what you do, you can't change it. What you can do is to see today, see what you want to do, see what

Hitting the ball back.

How do you get better at ping pong? You can hire a really good coach. Yes. But that isn't enough. You need someone to hit the ball back to you. Again, and again, and again. If you find someone who is willing to do that, you would get

Make better things.

The world is the way it is. Some people make things worse just to make an extra buck. Okay, many people do that. But most don't. Most of us show up trying to make things better. If it were the other way around, the world wouldn't

Evening you.

Morning You might be full of energy... and it can expect the same from the Evening You. Same with Monday You assuming about Friday You. Empathy is hard. Self-empathy is harder. But it can be learned. Building the skill to empathise with different versions of you is worth investing in.

Do you know someone who...

It's a simple ask. With a simple answer. Either the other person knows someone and they can connect you with them. Or they don't. It's generous for everyone. The person asking, the person connecting and the third person who is connected. Yet, we hesitate.

For a friend...

If you had to choose for a friend, what would you choose? Would you order the same meal you are ordering for yourself? Would you ask her to work when she'd tired from the day? Would you tell her... just check your email once. Would you choose a