That's all it takes. A friend sent me a text last week. It was just three words. "I miss you." It changed my whole day. The way I felt about myself. The way I interacted with everyone else. We talked for an hour yesterday and it was so much joy. That'
Rest. Play. Rest. Rest until you feel like playing. Play until you feel like resting. ~ Martha Beck That's what kids do. That's what pets do. That's what professionals do too.
What will bring you joy? Make a list. Write all items big and small. Write the ones that don't seem too realistic right now. Write the ones that seem too small to be written down. Start ticking them off one by one. See the magic unfold. Mine included wearing my new shirt, going
Building upto it. This can become a way of stalling. A way of stretching things until you come to the point. Some movies do that. Most series do that. But the best ones don't. The new Tom Cruise movie Digger throws us into the deep end of the pool in scene
The way to unstuck. Seth Godin's new book is all about this. Getting unstuck. It's brilliant as expected. Check it out here: The KnotMost of us are working very hard on things that can’t be fixed. We optimize. We worry. We push. And nothing changes. At the same time,
Abundance/greed. Greed cares about the number. With greed, even $100 billion is not enough. Abundance forgets about the number. Because it's enough. If you have enough data in your wifi plan, you stop thinking about your wifi data. That's abundance. If you compare your wifi data with
Which game are you playing? Cricket has different formats. In T20, a batsman who scores 30 runs from 20 balls and gets out is considered to do a good job. In a test match, the same performance might get you dropped from the team. You can choose which game you want to play. And once
Out of fight/flight. Fight/flight is a stress response from the nervous system. When it gets a stimulus that is a threat to our safety, whether physical, emotional, mental or financial, it activates the mode automatically. The fort gates go up, the troops are in place. Anything or everything is perceived as a
The games period I can't remember any kid in the school who didn't wait for the games period. It didn't matter how good you were at cricket or football, or if you got to bat or not. You wanted to be out there, playing. Why then are
Rest Play Rest That's what kids do. That's what pets do. They play wholeheartedly. And when they are tired, they rest. And then it's play again. Does your BodyMind feel like playing or like resting? Are you willing to listen to it?
You matter. Do any of these feel true to you? What if you allow them to? You are meant to be at peace. You did nothing wrong. You are not in trouble. You are safe. You are loved. You belong. You are matter. You matter. All psychological suffering is an illusion. It&
Taking a day off It's so hard to do when you are your own boss. When you are not, you can turn off your phone and email. But what do you do with the voice inside your own head? How do you take a break from that? What you can do is
Complete the step. Years ago, when I started learning to dance, I had all these "hell thoughts" in my head... You can't dance. You are a pain to watch. Why are you making your teacher bear this? Why don't you just quit? My teacher saw me do
The gift of 'no'. Saying no doesn't look like a gift. And, for sure, it doesn't feel like one. Because it's hard to say no, we say yes. Or stay silent. Even when we don't want to. We put saying no off for later. For a
The realists. “Often, the person in the group who articulates the possible is dismissed as a dreamer or as a Pollyanna persisting in a simplistic “glass half-full” kind of optimism. The naysayers pride themselves on their supposed realism. However, it is actually the people who see the glass as “half-empty”
Two things at a time. It's tempting to try and do this. It feels productive (read: busy) and important. However, it usually means nothing gets done. It is also a good place to hide from the hard part - the decisions that need to be made to move things forward. As Seth says in
Living by exception. When you don't have a system, everything is an exception. It's not building towards something. It's just one thing after another. Systems work because they compound. The next thing adds onto the previous one. Things become elegant. A garden doesn't grow by
Wants to... A rested body wants to work out. A rested mind wants to create. A rested heart wants to love. You can force them to do these things. But you can't force them to want to.
The tight grip. The tighter you grip, the harder the fight back. The harder the fight back, the tighter you make the grip. What if you loosened the grip? What if you allowed yourself to breathe? Creativity thrives when there's space to move. Not in claustrophobia.
Rocket, plane or F1 car? All are designed to be fast. But you can't put an F1 car vertical and expect it to reach space. Or put a rocket horizontal to win a F1 race. Who's it for? What's it for?
Go, sleep! We might say this to a friend who's tired. But we rarely say it to ourselves. If you are feeling tired, go, sleep!
Where's the traffic? Last week, a flyover was opened up in Goa. It's right next to where I live. For the last two years, it's been under construction. We have had traffic hassles day in and day out. This road is closed. This one is jammed. And on and
"I want ice-cream" It was so simple, wasn't it? All you had to do was to say, "Mummy, I want ice-cream!" Not just that, you knew exactly which one you wanted. You trusted that if you said it, she would figure out how to get you the ice-
Space-time travel Pick a place you want to travel to or move to. Be specific. Even if you like where you currently live, pick another one. Now imagine being there in 6 months (or five years if 6 months is too close). What do you take with you? Who do you take
